Huge fan of your writings, pretty much single handedly got me into raunch. My question is, do you involve raunch/BDSM, ect. in your sex life or do you just keep it to your writing?

I’ve certainly played around with most of the stuff I’ve written about in solo sex play, at least on the less extreme side of the scale. I flag pretty orange as far as sex goes (i.e. down for most anything) but the husband is generally vanilla, and I don’t *need* anything fetishy to have good sex with him or other people. 

If I met the right person, and we played around and went in more kinky directions? I can see that happening maybe, but I’m pretty cautious. The few times I’ve experienced anything along the BDSM scale, were pretty horrendous. There was no discussion, I hadn’t voiced limits. It didn’t go very far, but it was as close as I’ve gotten to being raped, and I definitely have no desire to get into a messed up encounter/relationship like that again. Thankfully I know much, much more now about what healthy power exchange looks like and could probably better assert myself, but be safe! All this shit I write about, remember, is meant to be fantasy (and a horror story to boot) please don’t think this is what a real life power exchange should look like. Safe, sane and always consensual!